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College Students turn to New Website for Online Introductions

Fri, 30 Jul 2010 10:19:00 -0500

If you’re crushing on someone from your college philosophy class, now you don’t have to approach him in person to see if he might feel the same. More and more college students (and campuses) are turning to GoodCrush.com to make introductions. The site is set up for users to communicate in an anonymous fashion. A cross between a dating website and Facebook, GoodCrush.com allows students to enter up to five “crushes” at a time, and if there is a match, they are notified...

A Quick and Dirty Guide to Online Dating Clich�s: Part Two

Fri, 30 Jul 2010 09:55:00 -0500

e crushing on someone from your college philosophy class, now you don’t have to approach him in person to see if he might feel the same. More and more college students (and campuses) are turning to GoodCrush.com to make introductions.

The site is set up for users to communicate in an anonymous fashion. A cross between a dating website and Facebook, GoodCrush.com allows students to enter up to five “crushes” at a time, and if there is a match, they are notified in a congratulatory email (names are only given out if there’s a match). Also, if you have a crush on someone but don’t want to reveal yourself, you can bypass the matching process and send him or her a message directly (no photo or name attached) through the site’s messaging system.

The site went live on 20 college campuses in February, and since then 14,000 students have signed up. There are requests from students at 80 more colleges to join.

The growing popularity of GoodCrush.com is not surprising. More people are using social networking sites like Facebook, mobile applications, and websites to find love, or to just hook up. Virtually speaking, it’s easier than ever to meet people, regardless of whether or not you’re in college.

But more to the point, GoodCrush.com is helping students avoid potential face-to-face rejection. When you have a website anonymously confirm whether or not your crush is interested in you, it’s kind of an insurance policy for dating. This makes it a lot easier to date and to meet new people.

Of course, it makes it a lot easier to move on to the next crush, too.

Tag: goodcrush.com college
You wanted more, you asked, and here it is: part two of my Quick and Dirty Guide to Online Dating Clichés. Read on for further examples of tired truisms and lackluster lines that must be avoided in your profile. “Hi, I’m Dan, I’m 45 years old, and I’m a lawyer in Kansas.” With an opening line like that, you might as well be in a chatroom in the ‘90s asking “A/S/L?” That sentence not going to catch anyone’s attention, and all it...

A Quick and Dirty Guide to Online Dating Clich�s: Part One

Thu, 29 Jul 2010 09:55:00 -0500

e, you asked, and here it is: part two of my Quick and Dirty Guide to Online Dating Clichés. Read on for further examples of tired truisms and lackluster lines that must be avoided in your profile.

“Hi, I’m Dan, I’m 45 years old, and I’m a lawyer in Kansas.” With an opening line like that, you might as well be in a chatroom in the ‘90s asking “A/S/L?” That sentence not going to catch anyone’s attention, and all it offers is information that can be found elsewhere in your profile.

“I can’t believe I’m actually doing this!” “I like long walks on the beach and holding hands.” “I’m the funniest person you’ll ever meet!” “I don’t really know what to say about myself.” At some point while describing yourself in your profile, you might be tempted to include online dating clichés like these. My advice, should you find yourself in this grave situation, is simple: don’t do it. Resist...

Are You Being too Choosy?

Thu, 29 Jul 2010 09:07:00 -0500
squo;t believe I’m actually doing this!”

“I like long walks on the beach and holding hands.”

“I’m the funniest person you’ll ever meet!”

“I don’t really know what to say about myself.”

At some point while describing yourself in your profile, you might be tempted to include online dating clichés like these. My advice, should you find yourself in this grave situation, is simple: don’t do it. Resist the urge with all your might. Walk away from the computer and have a stiff drink to calm your nerves, if that’s what it takes to withstand the siren song of the cliché.

There are so many problems with using these clichés that I could probably write an entire novel on the subject, but to save you from wasting time on that tome – time you should be using to craft a good, platitude-free profile – I’ve compiled this, my Quick and Dirty Guide to Online Dating Clichés.

Let’s start with the four I’ve already mentioned:

Writing things like “I can’t believe I’m actually doing this!” or “My friends forced me to join this site” sends the not-so-flattering message that you think online dating is for losers and weirdoes. Do you really want your future dates to think that’s your opinion of them?

“I like long walks on the beach and holding hands.” Yawn. I bet you like candlelit dinners, having fun, and hanging out with your friends, too. Stereotypical romance will not win over online admirers, nor will mentioning that you enjoy activities that everyone enjoys.

“I’m the funniest person you’ll ever meet!” Or smartest. Or craziest. Or whatever. If you’re going to make a claim that big, you’d better be able to back it up. Or better yet, just don’t do it in the first place. At least 10 of the other profiles your potential date just viewed claimed the same thing.

You might think that “I don’t really know what to say about myself” or “I’m not very good at writing this kind of thing” shows off your modesty, but all it’s really doing is showing off your insecurity.

Are you starting to get the picture? Here are a few more of the Internet’s most popular dating clichés:

“If you want to hear more, just ask!” They won’t, trust me.

“I LOVE life.” As opposed to…what, exactly?

“I have a great sense of humor” or “I’m looking for someone who can make me laugh.” Humor is an admirable quality, but it’s painfully overused in online dating profiles. Instead of declaring that you’re funny, write a funny profile. Instead of writing that you’re looking for someone with a good sense of humor, write about what kind of humor makes you laugh so hard you can’t breathe.

Steer clear of “There isn’t enough room here to sum up my life!” An essay of Homeric proportions almost always follows. It’s not cute.

Want to hear more? Just ask!
Tag: online dating clich�s guide
Online dating puts us in touch with hundreds of singles we wouldn’t otherwise meet through our own network of friends and family. With all of the choice available, why does it seem so hard to meet the perfect guy or girl for us? Too much choice can be as limiting as too little, depending on how you approach meeting people online. If you start the search process with specific lists of what you want in a partner and what you want to avoid, you could be hindering your own search and not...

Match.com Second Quarter 2010 Financials

Wed, 28 Jul 2010 16:19:00 -0500
puts us in touch with hundreds of singles we wouldn’t otherwise meet through our own network of friends and family. With all of the choice available, why does it seem so hard to meet the perfect guy or girl for us?

Too much choice can be as limiting as too little, depending on how you approach meeting people online. If you start the search process with specific lists of what you want in a partner and what you want to avoid, you could be hindering your own search and not even realize it. The key is to keep an open mind and open heart, and not let your past mistakes and experiences color your outlook.

Following are some tips for keeping your expectations in check, so you don’t lose out on opportunity by being too picky:

Refrain from listing what you DON’T want in a partner. Although it’s tempting to say, “I don’t want someone who attracts drama” or “I don’t want someone who is too needy”, what you’re communicating to others is where past relationships have gone wrong, and that you still feel resentful. It’s a turn-off to make a list in your profile of what you don’t want in a partner.

Don’t make your list too specific. It’s fine if you’re looking for a girl or guy with similar interests, but don’t get carried away and list every single quality you desire. Chances are, you’re being a bit unrealistic in expecting one person to be the perfect blend of everything you want, and you’re setting yourself up for disappointment. Online dating is about expanding your social circle and dating a variety of people. This is a good way to fine-tune what you really want, so don’t filter out too many prospects in the beginning.

What makes for a fun date doesn’t necessarily make for a good partner. I have several girlfriends who envision meeting the perfect partner, say one who is handsome, charming, ambitious, successful, romantic, likes to dance, and likes to have fun. Although this is a good list for having a great date, these qualities aren’t necessarily what to look for in the long term. Just because he is handsome and charming doesn’t mean he’s good partner material. Think about the values you want to share, like kindness and consideration, rather than only superficial qualities.

Reconsider your “must-nots” or deal-breakers. If you won’t date anyone who is older than you, who has been married before, or who makes less than you do for example, it’s time to reconsider your filters. These are not relationship deal-breakers, so don’t restrict your choices so thoroughly from the beginning. Perhaps the girl who is a few years older is perfect for you in every other way, or maybe the guy who’s making less now is saving to start his own business.

Bottom line, keep an open mind and don’t limit yourself to who you think you should be dating. And don’t let your past get in the way of meeting a great future partner.
Tag: online dating expectations matches
The owner of Match.com and Chemistry, IAC, reported their second quarter financials for 2010 today. Over all the search and dating company saw growth increase by 18 percent to $402.9 million when compared to $340 million from Q2, 2009. This increase beat analysts� estimates by well over $20 million. IAC owned dating sites brought in $97 million in quarter 2 this year which is an increase of 10 percent over quarter 2 in 2009 ($88.3 million). Removing acquisitions not available in Q2 2009...

Common Online Dating Personalities

Wed, 28 Jul 2010 09:55:00 -0500
atch.com and Chemistry, IAC, reported their second quarter financials for 2010 today. Over all the search and dating company saw growth increase by 18 percent to $402.9 million when compared to $340 million from Q2, 2009. This increase beat analysts� estimates by well over $20 million.

IAC owned dating sites brought in $97 million in quarter 2 this year which is an increase of 10 percent over quarter 2 in 2009 ($88.3 million). Removing acquisitions not available in Q2 2009 (People Media and Singlesnet) revenue grew by 4 percent domestically.

The big increase in quarter 2 was paid subscribers. Subscribers for this quarter was up 48 percent to 1,716,000. In quarter 2 of 2009 subscribers was at 1,156,000. This increase in large part is due to the purchase of People Media and Singlesnet since the previous quarter. Removing these acquisitions the Match.com dating site saw subscribers increase by 8 percent organically.

For the complete public financial IAC Q2 2010 report read this page. For more information on the dating sites owned by IAC, read our Match.com review and are Chemistry review.
Related Story: Match.com First Quarter 2010 Financials. Tag: iac finance match.com chemistry
“Opposites attract.” You’ve all heard that saying countless times, and you’ve probably experienced something like it at some point in your life, but does it hold up when it comes to online dating? Of course there are exceptions to every rule, but more often than not potential dates are attracted to the things you have in common, not the things you don’t. The anonymity and potential safety concerns associated with the Internet can make meeting people online a...

Full Disclosure on Dates

Tue, 27 Jul 2010 20:19:00 -0500
es attract.”

You’ve all heard that saying countless times, and you’ve probably experienced something like it at some point in your life, but does it hold up when it comes to online dating?

Of course there are exceptions to every rule, but more often than not potential dates are attracted to the things you have in common, not the things you don’t. The anonymity and potential safety concerns associated with the Internet can make meeting people online a nerve-wracking experience, so in order for someone to be comfortable meeting you or sharing personal information, you must build enough rapport with them that they feel they know you well and that you are trustworthy.

The best way to build this connection is – you guessed it! – discussing your similarities, and identifying strongly with the people with whom you would like to get more involved.

Take a moment to think about your ideal date. What qualities do you find attractive? What kind of person are you most interested in meeting online? What would grab the attention of that kind of person?

Over time, you’ll find that a lot of the men and women you encounter online fall into recognizable personality categories, with identifiable traits and relatively predictable behavior. Some of the most common online dating personalities are:

The Introvert: An introvert usually begins his or her profile with something like “I’m not really sure what to write about” or “I don’t know what to say about myself.” This personality type is typically shy, and might have low self-esteem. When reaching out to this kind of person, it’s important that you take your time and build rapport slowly. Developing a strong connection and sense of trust is more important with Introverts than with anyone else.

The Adventurer: The adventurer loves life and intends to live it to the fullest. They like being active, are not afraid of taking risks, and believe that everything should be tried once. Adventurers are usually easy to spot – just look at the photos they’ve uploaded and the outrageous stories they tell in their profiles. To attract this personality, show that you are just like them by exhibiting your adventurous side.

The “I’m-Totally-Over-It”: This personality type is tired of playing games and sick of the traditional dating scene. They’re ready to find a deep connection and a serious relationship. If this is the kind of person you’re looking for, win them over by empathizing with them. Make sure they understand that you’re both at the same stage in your lives, and that you share common relationship goals.

The “I’m-Comfortable-Being-Me”: A person like this is confident and secure. They’re equally as happy dressing up and spending the night on the town as they are lounging around the house in their pajamas. They’re proud of who they are and don’t care what anyone else thinks of them. The key to winning this type over is using your wit and showing your quirky side. They love humor and individuality, and want to surround themselves with others who don’t care what people think of them.

As soon as you’ve identified the kind of personalities you’re most interested in, you can start targeting your messages and tailoring your profile to attract the people that will be the best matches for you.
Tag: online dating relationships personality
Over the past few years, I�ve realized the extreme importance of having full disclosure with dates and partners. Each time I�ve been able to exercise this type of frankness with a new partner, I�ve discovered that the relationship is much more fulfilling and honest.

Everyone always wants to put their best foot forward on a date -- especially on those initial first dates. And in no way does having full disclosure conflict with that! You can be entirely charming and frank at the same time!...

4 Lies You�ll Be Tempted To Tell, And Why Not To Tell Them

Tue, 27 Jul 2010 09:55:00 -0500
years, I�ve realized the extreme importance of having full disclosure with dates and partners. Each time I�ve been able to exercise this type of frankness with a new partner, I�ve discovered that the relationship is much more fulfilling and honest.

Everyone always wants to put their best foot forward on a date -- especially on those initial first dates. And in no way does having full disclosure conflict with that! You can be entirely charming and frank at the same time!

Such frankness is not always easy, either. There are times when you will know that the disclosure of certain information might mean that you�ve exercised a deal-breaker to your date.

For instance, for a while, I was involved in a steady relationship, but it was open and we had agreed that while we were still devoted to each other, we would also like to see other people and share our experiences with each other.

I was really nervous about this the first time I had a date during that relationship. I know that for certain people, the fact that I was already in a relationship might have disqualified me for any further dates. However, I also knew that the other person needed that information about me if he was going to be able to make an informed decision as to whether or not he would like to continue dating me and that withholding that information would be both unethical and cruel.

As soon as it came up, I told him about my boyfriend and our situation. Although he was a little shocked at first, he was actually really okay with it. He even asked me questions about it and wanted to know how it worked and how we had come to that decision, thus provoking a lively and thoughtful conversation on the topic of monogamy versus polyamory.

Furthermore, although this date worked out well and my partner was okay with my situation, I�m fully aware that not all people would have the same response. I�m sure that there are many people who would, in fact, be deeply uncomfortable with the idea, and I respect their stance. Nevertheless -- it is still their right to know.

The point is that full disclosure allows you and your partner to make accurate assessments about whether or not they would like to continue dating. By expressing your needs and desires openly and frankly in such a way, both parties will be able to make informed decisions -- some of which will be in your favor and some that won�t. By practicing full disclosure, you can save time and hearts by being honest and straightforward right away about what you want out of the situation -- and be more likely to get it.

Tag: dating honesty
The limitless access the Internet offers to a worldwide community makes online dating one of the most convenient, affordable, and effective ways to meet your match, but the anonymity of the Web also makes it a breeding ground for dishonesty. It’s surprisingly easy for even the most genuine person, when filling out an online dating profile, to allow him- or herself to be tempted by the lack of face-to-face contact to stray from the truth in order to increase success with other members. Do...

The Social Network Movie

Mon, 26 Jul 2010 10:43:00 -0500
access the Internet offers to a worldwide community makes online dating one of the most convenient, affordable, and effective ways to meet your match, but the anonymity of the Web also makes it a breeding ground for dishonesty.

It’s surprisingly easy for even the most genuine person, when filling out an online dating profile, to allow him- or herself to be tempted by the lack of face-to-face contact to stray from the truth in order to increase success with other members.

Do your part to make the Internet a safer, more trustworthy place by avoiding the following common online dating lies:

• Age: Lying about your age is a practice as old as dating itself, but that doesn’t make it any less objectionable. You might assume that this is primarily a female vice, but studies have shown that both sexes are guilty of trying to appear younger than they really are. Lying about your age does not send the attractive message “I am mature and confident” – it sends the off-putting message “I’m completely uncomfortable with who I am and where I am in my life.”

• Appearance: There are countless horror stories of people who meet online dates in person for the first time only to discover that they look nothing like the photos or physical description in their profile. Never upload pictures that are not actually you, photos that are so old that they do not accurately represent you anymore, or pictures that have been retouched or otherwise manipulated. You might be able to get away with it for a little while, but your lie will be exposed as soon as you take your relationship offline.

• Income and Occupation: This crime against online dating honesty is mostly committed by men who wish to appear wealthier. While it’s true that women are biologically programmed to be attracted to attributes that indicate that a man is successful, high on the social ladder, and able to provide for a partner and family, it’s not fair to exaggerate the truth. Your actual financial status will be revealed as soon as your dates have an opportunity to observe things like the way you dress, the events you attend, the car you drive, and the acquaintances you surround yourself with.

• Your Current Relationship Status and Desired Relationship: It is unethical to tell a potential date that you are not seeing anyone when you really are, unless you are in a consensually non-monogamous relationship with a “Don’t ask, don’t tell” policy. You should also never lie about the kind of relationship you’re interested in getting into. For instance, don’t advertise that you’re hoping to find a long-term relationship when you’re really only looking for casual hookups.

Trust is an essential feature of a good relationship. A relationship that begins with apologies for misrepresenting yourself and attempts to convince your date that you are not a generally deceitful person is already a failure, no matter how good of a catch you might actually be.
Tag: online dating profile honesty
I heard about this movie being made a couple of months ago but this is the first time I have seen a trailer for it which was released on July 15th. The movie is titled "The Social Network" and it is based on the founders of Facebook and the trials they faced making the social networking website what it is today. The leading actors in the movie include Jesse Eisenberg (from Zombieland) who plays Mark Zuckerberg, and Justin Timberlake who plays Eduardo Saverin.

The movie's expected...

Dating Sites Reviews Welcomes Elyse

Mon, 26 Jul 2010 10:19:00 -0500
s movie being made a couple of months ago but this is the first time I have seen a trailer for it which was released on July 15th. The movie is titled
Dating Sites Reviews would like to welcome our new Blogger, Elyse, to our website. She is a dating coach from New York and enjoys studying how attraction works as well as what is needed to create a successful relationship. Elyse will be contributing regularly to our Dating Advice and Tips topics bringing her expert knowledge to bear.

You can already find some of Elyse's dating articles online now which you can find available here.

If you have a dating or relationship question, or topic,...

Chemistry Doesn't Always Mean Explosion

Mon, 26 Jul 2010 09:31:00 -0500
ews would like to welcome our new Blogger, Elyse, to our website. She is a dating coach from New York and enjoys studying how attraction works as well as what is needed to create a successful relationship. Elyse will be contributing regularly to our Dating Advice and Tips topics bringing her expert knowledge to bear.

You can already find some of Elyse's dating articles online now which you can find available here.

If you have a dating or relationship question, or topic, for Elyse to cover in a future article you can contact her here. For more information on Elyse you can read her Bio page.

Tag: writer blogger
In the world of online dating, we throw the word �chemistry� around a lot. You can get along fine on paper, we say, but if there's no chemistry in person, you're sunk. Well, this may be true, but occasionally I run across friends who have a slightly skewed idea of what �chemistry� actually is.

Some expect it to be like the movies; fireworks at first sight. If they don't get weak at the knees when they brush their date's hand, well, it must not be meant to be. I cannot tell you how many...

Staying Safe in Cyberspace

Sun, 25 Jul 2010 17:09:00 -0500
nline dating, we throw the word �chemistry� around a lot. You can get along fine on paper, we say, but if there's no chemistry in person, you're sunk. Well, this may be true, but occasionally I run across friends who have a slightly skewed idea of what �chemistry� actually is.

Some expect it to be like the movies; fireworks at first sight. If they don't get weak at the knees when they brush their date's hand, well, it must not be meant to be. I cannot tell you how many couples I've met who are in marriages or long-term relationships where one or both members of the couple doesn't even remember meeting their significant other for the first time. The earth did not move when they locked eyes for the first time, and bells did not ring when they first kissed. And they're perfectly happy today.

One woman I know is dating a man who seems perfect for her � he's kind, they have a lot in common, and there's nothing she can really say about him that is negative. Except, of course, that's she not really sure that they really have chemistry. She's not repulsed by any means, but it's not wild and exciting.

I questioned her a little more, and we've determined that the attraction is not really the problem. For one thing, she's typically dated �bad boys� in the past, so for her, �exciting� has often meant �dangerous,� and this guy is anything but. More importantly, she seems to be a little alarmed by the fact that there's no discernible problem with this guy � so since she can't find anything concrete to complain about, she goes for the nebulous �attraction� quality that isn't arguable.

After our conversation, my friend is feeling more confident in continuing to pursue her current relationship, to give it a fair shot. But she's not the only one who resists a good opportunity and hides behind chemistry, because she's scared or overly cautious. Next time you're on a date and you're lacking the fireworks, ask yourself why. And furthermore, ask yourself if you really need them on the first date.

Tag: online dating chemistry relationships
The Internet is a powerful tool for connecting people across the globe, but in the wrong hands the convenience and anonymity of the Web transform it into a haven for dishonest users looking to take advantage of others. Before embarking on an online dating adventure, it’s vital that you understand how to protect yourself. Abide by the following 5 rules to stay safe in cyberspace and have a drama-free dating life: 1) Open an email account that is used specifically for online dating...

Staying Safe in Cyberspace - Dating Sites Reviews

Sun, 25 Jul 2010 17:00:00 -0500
s a powerful tool for connecting people across the globe, but in the wrong hands the convenience and anonymity of the Web transform it into a haven for dishonest users looking to take advantage of others.

Before embarking on an online dating adventure, it’s vital that you understand how to protect yourself. Abide by the following 5 rules to stay safe in cyberspace and have a drama-free dating life:

1) Open an email account that is used specifically for online dating communication and nothing else. You might be surprised by how much personal information can be gathered about you from your email address. Your full name might appear in the address itself, or in the “From” field when an email is received. A work address tells the recipient where you are employed, and a digital signature that is automatically included at the end of every message could divulge more information than you are comfortable revealing.

2) Don’t rely on the site to protect you. Many dating sites claim that all members must undergo mandatory background checks and tests to confirm that they are, in fact, single. Services like these might sound safer than their counterparts, but the reality is that laws differ from state-to-state when it comes to background checks, rendering them practically ineffective in some locations. Never let your guard down because you think deceitful people are prevented from joining a dating site.

3) Don’t share personal information too soon. Create a username that doesn’t reveal too many details about who you are, and keep identifying information out of your profile and messages. Don’t be in a hurry to share things like your full name, workplace, phone number, and address.

4) Watch for warning signs. It’s best to steer clear of people who:

a. Refuse to speak with you on the phone.

b. Offer inconsistent information about details like their marital status, career, employment, and education.

c. Avoid giving direct answers to questions.

d. Pressure you to meet them in person more quickly than you are comfortable with.

5) Always be aware of your safety when taking your relationship offline. Do not accept an offer to be picked up at your home or place of work. Let a friend know where you are going and who you are going with. Meet your date in a public place you are familiar with and can easily leave if you need to. If you have to travel a long distance to meet your date, do not stay with him or her. Book a hotel and do not mention its name.

Above all, trust your gut instincts. Take things at your own pace and never allow someone to talk you into doing something you don’t want to do. Always act in ways that feel right to you, even when you think you’re being paranoid. It’s tempting to succumb to the feelings of instant connection online dating provides, but proceed with caution in all situations and only move forward with a relationship when you feel completely safe.
Tag: internet safety
The Internet is a powerful tool for connecting people across the globe, but in the wrong hands the convenience and anonymity of the Web transform it into a haven for dishonest users looking to take advantage of others. Before embarking on an online dating adventure, it’s vital that you understand how to protect yourself. Abide by the following 5 rules to stay safe in cyberspace and have a drama-free dating life: 1) Open an email account that is used specifically for online dating...

4 Ways To Stop A Break Up From Happening

Sun, 18 Jul 2010 17:53:00 -0500
s a powerful tool for connecting people across the globe, but in the wrong hands the convenience and anonymity of the Web transform it into a haven for dishonest users looking to take advantage of others.

Before embarking on an online dating adventure, it’s vital that you understand how to protect yourself. Abide by the following 5 rules to stay safe in cyberspace and have a drama-free dating life:

1) Open an email account that is used specifically for online dating communication and nothing else. You might be surprised by how much personal information can be gathered about you from your email address. Your full name might appear in the address itself, or in the “From” field when an email is received. A work address tells the recipient where you are employed, and a digital signature that is automatically included at the end of every message could divulge more information than you are comfortable revealing.

2) Don’t rely on the site to protect you. Many dating sites claim that all members must undergo mandatory background checks and tests to confirm that they are, in fact, single. Services like these might sound safer than their counterparts, but the reality is that laws differ from state-to-state when it comes to background checks, rendering them practically ineffective in some locations. Never let your guard down because you think deceitful people are prevented from joining a dating site.

3) Don’t share personal information too soon. Create a username that doesn’t reveal too many details about who you are, and keep identifying information out of your profile and messages. Don’t be in a hurry to share things like your full name, workplace, phone number, and address.

4) Watch for warning signs. It’s best to steer clear of people who:

a. Refuse to speak with you on the phone.

b. Offer inconsistent information about details like their marital status, career, employment, and education.

c. Avoid giving direct answers to questions.

d. Pressure you to meet them in person more quickly than you are comfortable with.

5) Always be aware of your safety when taking your relationship offline. Do not accept an offer to be picked up at your home or place of work. Let a friend know where you are going and who you are going with. Meet your date in a public place you are familiar with and can easily leave if you need to. If you have to travel a long distance to meet your date, do not stay with him or her. Book a hotel and do not mention its name.

Above all, trust your gut instincts. Take things at your own pace and never allow someone to talk you into doing something you don’t want to do. Always act in ways that feel right to you, even when you think you’re being paranoid. It’s tempting to succumb to the feelings of instant connection online dating provides, but proceed with caution in all situations and only move forward with a relationship when you feel completely safe.
Tag: internet safety
Are you seeing some signals that your boyfriend may dump you? Don't just let it happen, take these steps to prevent a breakup. It may be tough to do, working at making it work will be worth it if you love each other.
The most important first step is to talk openly, searching for understanding. If you're experiencing unease and arguing, state your feelings clearly, but don't say anything harsh that you'll later regret. It's important that you give him a chance to make his point and listen,...

4 Simple Tips To Win Back Your Guy

Sat, 17 Jul 2010 17:53:00 -0500

You may want know how to win your guy back once the pizazz is gone. Using 4 simple steps, you can get your relationship back on track as you were before � even if your boyfriend is dating someone else.
The first step is to become a person he can trust. Be around him as much as possible, let him know that you're available when he needs to get something off his chest. An open mind and neutral frame of mind is the key. Letting your ex know that he can open up and share his feelings and not be...

Don't Let A Big Fight with Your Boyfriend Ruin Your Relationship

Fri, 16 Jul 2010 17:53:00 -0500

Did you and your boyfriend get into another fight? Was it over something trivial? Or was it heavy, like catching him with another woman?
Fight with Boyfriend Tip #1
Check out the reason for the fight. Simple things require only simple remedies. If he's constantly late, find out why. If he's cheating on you or has stolen money from you, it's probably a good idea to get out of the relationship. Don't let a fight throw you off completely, most couples have them. It's understandable that two...

Break-Up Depression? 3 Ways To Get Over It Fast

Thu, 15 Jul 2010 17:53:00 -0500

You've been through a break-up and now you're depressed. It's sad to go through the day on the verge of tears. Break-up depression is a fact of life.
They are among some of the most important aspects of our lives, losing a relationship to a break-up is especially punishing. Because of the time and energy we invest in them, relationships become a very important part of our lives. Our world gets turned upside down when we find the other person wants out of the relationship. Stop the pain,...

***Great Love Is Best Not Rushed

Wed, 14 Jul 2010 17:53:00 -0500

By America's #1 Love and Marriage Experts.
�You have to walk carefully in the beginning of love; the running across fields into your lover's arms can only come later when you're sure they won't laugh if you trip.� This marvelous quote by Jonathan Carroll is from Outside the Dog Museum.
We think this is wonderful advice for those �falling in love.� Too often, two people feel the early signs of a loving relationship only to move too fast and scare away the one they are falling in love with. Or...

How To Get A Beautiful Thai Girlfriend

Tue, 13 Jul 2010 17:53:00 -0500
1 Love and Marriage Experts.

�You have to walk carefully in the beginning of love; the running across fields into your lover's arms can only come later when you're sure they won't laugh if you trip.� This marvelous quote by Jonathan Carroll is from Outside the Dog Museum.

We think this is wonderful advice for those �falling in love.� Too often, two people feel the early signs of a loving relationship only to move too fast and scare away the one they are falling in love with. Or worse yet, they become so enamored with �being in love� that they become blinded to the warning signs. They so desperately want to be in love and be loved that they miss important clues to the real feelings of the one they love.

In our many interviews over the years with individuals who have had a successful and long-term relationship with somebody, we have repeatedly heard this advice � go slow in the beginning.

You've heard the old expression, �Rome wasn't built in a day.� One thing for certain � neither was love. It develops over time. It requires patience. It requires self-examination. And it most certainly requires you to run slowly across fields until you find the proper footing, lest you fall down!

Building confidence in any budding love relationship takes time and commitment. It requires a level of objectivity about what is going on at a level you may have never reached before. People falling in love do not lie to each other, but they often lie to themselves about what is happening to them. They let feelings and emotions get the best of them before they are truly ready to share their heart with another � before they are ready to make the honest and caring commitment required to make love last.

Recently, someone sent us a copy of a beautiful essay entitled �Letters To My Son
Many guys who have a preference for Asian women can tell you that Thailand contains the most gorgeous girls in Asia. It's no surprise then that Thai girls are a magnet for Western men, thousands of whom fly halfway around the world every year to seek relationships with Thai girls. Often times, these guys feel unappreciated and unloved in their own countries, and want a relationship with a "traditional" Asian woman who will treat them with care and respect.
Thai girls, in addition to being sexy...

How to Improve Your Dating Success

Mon, 12 Jul 2010 17:53:00 -0500
have a preference for Asian women can tell you that Thailand contains the most gorgeous girls in Asia. It's no surprise then that Thai girls are a magnet for Western men, thousands of whom fly halfway around the world every year to seek relationships with Thai girls. Often times, these guys feel unappreciated and unloved in their own countries, and want a relationship with a
The following article was recently featured in the Relationship Coaching Institute (RCI) newsletter. Tara Kachaturoff is the interviewer; she is the editor of the RCI newsletter.
How to Improve Your Dating Success
Tara Kachaturoff: Drawing from your experience with coaching singles, why are some singles successful with dating while others are not? Is it mindset, relating skills, experience, or something else?
Randy Hurlburt: It is a combination of things. Here are some critical...

Communication Tips to Help You Talk Commitment Even When You're Not Ready for Marriage

Sun, 11 Jul 2010 17:53:00 -0500
article was recently featured in the Relationship Coaching Institute (RCI) newsletter. Tara Kachaturoff is the interviewer; she is the editor of the RCI newsletter.

How to Improve Your Dating Success

Tara Kachaturoff: Drawing from your experience with coaching singles, why are some singles successful with dating while others are not? Is it mindset, relating skills, experience, or something else?

Randy Hurlburt: It is a combination of things. Here are some critical ones:

Successful singles put themselves
Lindsay and Brian have been dating for about a month now. They've been spending every weekend together. Both of them are beginning to wonder if this is turning into something more.
This is an exciting time for Lindsay and Brian. They are having fun together and their growing intimacy is welcomed by both.
Neither Lindsay nor Brian wants to rush things though.
Lindsay doesn't want to scare Brian off or make him think that she's pushing him to get serious. At the same time, she would like...

HOW TIME CAN MAKE OR BREAK A RELATIONSHIP

Sat, 10 Jul 2010 17:53:00 -0500

by Susan McKenzie

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KILLING TIME OR KILLING THE RELATIONSHIP
I was once in a relationship but the person just had no time for me. All the time he would give excuses such as...

When Do Men Expect to Have Sex With Us? A Single Man's Response

Fri, 09 Jul 2010 17:53:00 -0500

I get asked this question constantly. Women who are dating want to know this; especially women who are divorced and over 40, and haven't been dating for some time. They also want to know how they can tell if sex is all he wants.
Good questions. The truth is that whether you're dating at 20, 40, or 70 you're going to question how long you should wait � and he will wait � before you get intimate. And you certainly want to be able to spot the guys who just want to hop in the sack and then go on to...

�How honest should I be about my past?�: Relationship Advice for those Tricky Situations

Thu, 08 Jul 2010 17:53:00 -0500

Jake was a party guy in college. He stayed up late, was the life of every social event he attended and was never without a date. In fact, Jake had a lot of dates and sexual partners during this wilder time in his life.
Now, 5 years later, Jake has settled down a bit. He still lives life to the fullest, but he doesn't party the way that he used to-- and he's glad about that.
When Jake met Andrea, he knew that this was the woman he could truly enjoy spending his life with. They've been...

Beautiful Women - Where To Meet Them And How To Attract Them

Wed, 07 Jul 2010 17:53:00 -0500

It's almost universal - guys want to know how to meet beautiful women. There are special places you can go to meet them, and there are special ways to treat them. I'll share my knowledge of these "secrets" with you.
You Can Meet Beautiful Women Here . . .
It's no secret - wherever you look, there are beautiful women. Here's something I think a lot of people don't really understand - these gorgeous ladies really aren't any different than you or me. A beautiful woman has to eat and she has to...

Achieving A Strong Connection With A Woman - Learn The Secret PUA Routines!

Tue, 06 Jul 2010 17:53:00 -0500
iversal - guys want to know how to meet beautiful women. There are special places you can go to meet them, and there are special ways to treat them. I'll share my knowledge of these
There are several PUA routines that anyone can use to help achieve successful relationships with women. Let's discuss a few of them. There's nothing supernatural or magical about these routines - they're basically just stories that build you up into someone a woman wants to get to know better.
Don't worry - I'm not going to waste time rehashing some old, tired routines like "the cube" and "the jealous girlfriend." I'm going to go over a few of the newer routines here.
The Present Routine -...

Duties of the Father of the Bride (Part I of IV-The Announcement)

Mon, 05 Jul 2010 17:53:00 -0500
ral PUA routines that anyone can use to help achieve successful relationships with women. Let's discuss a few of them. There's nothing supernatural or magical about these routines - they're basically just stories that build you up into someone a woman wants to get to know better.

Don't worry - I'm not going to waste time rehashing some old, tired routines like

by Howard Edward Haller, Ph.D. is CEO, Celestial Publications (WeddingLDS.com), Professional Speaker & Author of Two Books

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5 Top Internet Dating Profile Writing Mistakes to Avoid

Sun, 04 Jul 2010 17:53:00 -0500

Recently *The Washington Post had an article on how dating online is a better way to meet a serious romantic partner than some other past traditional ways.
My advice for dating includes the participation in online dating as any total dating strategy. I do have some dating tips for men and women on how to improve their profiles and who they attract through online dating. For my one on one coaching clients and my coaching group clients, I review their online dating profiles. I see the same...

4 Date Traits to Avoid

Sat, 03 Jul 2010 17:53:00 -0500
Washington Post had an article on how dating online is a better way to meet a serious romantic partner than some other past traditional ways.

My advice for dating includes the participation in online dating as any total dating strategy. I do have some dating tips for men and women on how to improve their profiles and who they attract through online dating. For my one on one coaching clients and my coaching group clients, I review their online dating profiles. I see the same mistakes being made time and time again.

Here is my list of top online dating mistakes and my dating tips for men and women on how to improve their online dating profiles and attract the right person:

1. Posting bad pictures or no pictures at all.

It's amazing how poor pictures are. It doesn't have to be a glamour shot, just something attractive to show your best features. A smile goes a long way!

2. Sounding too demanding and controlling in tone.

I read profiles that say

by
DR. GILDA CARLE (PH.D.)
If you're feeling desperate and lonely, you might fall for the wrong person.
Courtesy of Match.com's Happen Magazine ?
http://www.happenmag.com/magazine/index.aspx?lid=396
So you dread those �bummer� dates. Who doesn't? But after your last relationship ended in heartache, you're loopy, lonely and you mindlessly forfeit your standards for the possibility of being loved. Silly romantic saps, aren't we? Face it: from time to time all of us let the desire to be adored...

Safe Online Dating Techniques

Fri, 02 Jul 2010 17:53:00 -0500

As more people try internet matching services, online dating safety becomes more and more of an issue. According to television advertisements many people are meeting their sole mates through these services. Whether these matches are truly life long, of course, remains to be seen.
If I were to be looking for a romantic interest on line I would not go to a chat room for this. In a chat room we can be anyone we want and so can the guys. If his picture looks suspiciously like the one that came with...

Overcoming a Past of Abuse

Thu, 01 Jul 2010 17:53:00 -0500

Overcoming a Past of Abuse
Courtesy of Match.com's Happen Magazine
Dear Dr. Gilda,
It has been almost a year since I fled my marriage, which was very abusive and ended in divorce. For most of this year, I have been floundering, but I have started to pick up the pieces and put myself back together. I have a lot of goals I want to accomplish to improve myself, and I have started taking baby steps toward them.
There is a guy who works in the same building I do, and I have had a crush on him...

The Disappearing Lover

Wed, 30 Jun 2010 17:53:00 -0500

By
DR. GILDA CARLE (Ph.D.)
Courtesy of Match.com's Happen Magazine ?
http://www.happenmag.com/magazine/index.aspx?lid=396
Dear Dr. Gilda,
I am 36, a professionally successful divorced woman who has a lot of affection for my boyfriend. But I don't even know if we have a relationship; he disappears from time to time. He is gone for weeks and then he comes back saying he thought about things and I am the best one for him. I don't think he is seeing other women, though I can never be sure.
He is...

Platonic Friendship- Does It Still Exist?

Tue, 29 Jun 2010 17:53:00 -0500

The answer is definitely YES! But we were made to believe that male- female friendship cannot be and will not be done. It is impossible. Well, we can't blame them- we were made and brought up to believe that man and woman coexist in the bounds of sex and romance alone.
It is written in the bible- Eve was created for Adam. It is in the television- Monica and Chandler in Friends; George and Izzy in Grey's Anatomy. It is in the movies- �When Harry Met Sally�, the movie was basically about...

How To Date A Girl

Mon, 28 Jun 2010 17:53:00 -0500

Based on my own findings (and experience), nearly all guys assume that they have to impress a girl to be able to date her. Unfortunately, that's completely the wrong approach; if you find out how to date a girl from guys who already did it, you'll learn that having false attitude or even lying won't lead to healthy relationship. Being truthful is the simplest way to begin it; you might not get the result that you want, yet it is better compared to get ditched later when your girlfriend found...

Naughty And Nice Flirting Tips

Sun, 27 Jun 2010 17:53:00 -0500

Before you go out of the house, you fix your hair, put on your make-up, spray some sweet smelling perfume� then go back in the mirror again and double check your make up and your hair. You need perfection before going out of the house. Who knows? You might run into someone you like.
And you can't help but flirt, flirt, flirt and flirt some more. Before we go into the details of flirting tips it is a must that you must be striking. This doesn't mean you have to look like Angelina Jolie. Making...

Taming the Butterflies!

Sat, 26 Jun 2010 17:53:00 -0500

Oh that new feeling ... the tummy flutters, the palms are sweaty, heart races, constantly checking email. Its the tale tale signs of a new relationship! But how do we keep our wits about us and know for sure that its really a love connection and not just the excitement of the possibility of falling in love? All too often we have waited for so long for someone who can make our hearts beat faster that we may overlook obvious signs that this is not going to be healthy! Or we rush head first into...

Signs Of a Cheating Boyfriend - What You Ought To Know

Fri, 25 Jun 2010 17:53:00 -0500

Would you know the indicators of a unfaithful boyfriend? If you are in a relationship right now and it doesn't fully feel perfect, in other words, you think your partner is not really being totally loyal to you then we have posted 5 things you should look for that could confirm your suspicions.
We certainly do not want you rushing to your partner and accusing them head on without possessing solid evidence and the subsequent five indicators are only intended to be indicators that there can be...

Tips For Men On How To Get Back With Your Ex

Thu, 24 Jun 2010 18:50:00 -0500

At the moment typical guys are trying to devise a method to get their ex wife or girlfriend back in their life, they realize that they are presented with only a handful of obvious options. They contemplate what might have worked before in earlier times and what they assume will work. It's this falsified way of thinking creates many problems when it should be dismissed.
Truthfully, the vast majority of guys concentrate on taking part in the wrong things. A smart man will figure that there is...

Dating Tips: How to Take Date Night From 'Meh' to Mind-Blowing

Fri, 18 Jun 2010 09:27:00 -0500

Inspired
by the romantic date-night tradition set by the First
Lady and President Obama, Washington D.C. has appointed Dr. Ruth
Westheimer honorary secretary of the Department of Love and
Relationships.Michelle and Barack's
practice of making time to connect one-on-one has set a trend that is
both pro-relationship and good for local economies. The Washington D.C.
tourism board is looking to stimulate both its economy and the
relationships of its inhabitants through its new initiative Date...

Dating Tips: 10 Signs He's Smitten

Fri, 18 Jun 2010 08:27:00 -0500
y the romantic date-night tradition set by the First Lady and President Obama, Washington D.C. has appointed Dr. Ruth Westheimer honorary secretary of the Department of Love and Relationships.
Michelle and Barack's practice of making time to connect one-on-one has set a trend that is both pro-relationship and good for local economies. The Washington D.C. tourism board is looking to stimulate both its economy and the relationships of its inhabitants through its new initiative Date Night D.C. Dr. Ruth is publicizing the district's website, which has a
Love. The definition is much debated, and the reality varies, depending upon where you are in your relationship. For example, love when you're walking down the aisle to exchange your "I Do's" is pretty different from the love you share when you're celebrating your hard-won, 50-year anniversary. The thing is, many of us aren't even close to the proposal phase, let alone wedding or golden anniversary. What we want to know is: Does he like me? Does he really like me? Here's how to tell he's...

Dating Tips: How to Impress Even Before the First Date

Thu, 17 Jun 2010 09:27:00 -0500
The definition is much debated, and the reality varies, depending upon where you are in your relationship. For example, love when you're walking down the aisle to exchange your
First
impressions are everything: We all know that. But did
you realize that first impressions actually begin before your first
date, usually by phone?Talking on the
phone is a tricky dating stage that
comes after exchanging emails but prior to meeting face-to-face. What
I'm seeing as a matchmaker is that many first dates never happen,
because your potential mate had a negative "pre-first-impression" of
you on the phone.But not to worry!
After interviewing more than 1,000 single men and...

Dating 101: Have You Found Your Soul Mate?

Thu, 17 Jun 2010 08:27:00 -0500
essions are everything: We all know that. But did you realize that first impressions actually begin before your first date, usually by phone?
Talking on the phone is a tricky dating stage that comes after exchanging emails but prior to meeting face-to-face. What I'm seeing as a matchmaker is that many first dates never happen, because your potential mate had a negative
Do
you believe there is a soul mate out there for you?
Well, you're not alone. Studies from the University of Virginia have
shown that over 90% of young adults believe in the concept. And 88%
believe that destiny has determined that there is one and only one
person who is your soul mate.The
concept of the soul mate is thousands of years old and probably was
originated by the Greek philosopher Plato. Plato described a soul mate
as the person's "other half" that has been split from him. The quest...

Does a Big Age Difference Doom a Relationship?

Wed, 16 Jun 2010 09:27:00 -0500
ieve there is a soul mate out there for you? Well, you're not alone. Studies from the University of Virginia have shown that over 90% of young adults believe in the concept. And 88% believe that destiny has determined that there is one and only one person who is your soul mate.
The concept of the soul mate is thousands of years old and probably was originated by the Greek philosopher Plato. Plato described a soul mate as the person's
Through
my experience, age does
matter in relationships. Age
is the vehicle by which we experience common milestones in life. These
milestones give us the ability to relate to one another -- experiencing
a first kiss, first partner, marriage, home, career, child, divorce,
etc. If you're at the end of this list, what on Earth could you have in
common with someone near the beginning? There is a reason that most
couples today do not have a significant age difference. Consider that
over the last...

Dating 101: Is He Mr. Right?

Wed, 16 Jun 2010 08:27:00 -0500
experience, age does matter in relationships. Age is the vehicle by which we experience common milestones in life. These milestones give us the ability to relate to one another -- experiencing a first kiss, first partner, marriage, home, career, child, divorce, etc. If you're at the end of this list, what on Earth could you have in common with someone near the beginning? There is a reason that most couples today do not have a significant age difference. Consider that over the last 100 years, the average age difference between married couples is 3.5 years. Coincidence? No. Call it what it is -- a trend.
When my divorce was final, I went out of my way to date women of different ages ranging anywhere from 22 to 53 years old. I found that with younger women, I felt attracted but bored. With older women it was just the opposite -- I was interested but did not feel attracted to them. With each woman I dated, things ended as quickly as they began. Their age should have been a warning to me that we may have nothing in common.
This experience taught me two things. The first is that age is not just a number. It is a fairly accurate measurement that describes where you have been and what is left in front of you. It tells you what you may have in common with someone. The second is to know what you are attracted to, understand what you want in a partner and a relationship, and confirm that these things are in agreement before you choose to spend time with someone. Now I stay away from age extremes, and in those rare moments when I meet someone extremely younger or older who I'm into, I look for common interests before committing to a date. This works for me because I recognize that age matters. It is simply naive to think otherwise.
I'll be honest here -- I like them older. Save for my first boyfriend, who was just two years older than me, the men I've dated and clicked with have generally been anywhere from six to 20 years my senior. Now, a 20-year age difference may not be the norm or
Think
your Mr. Next has the potential to be Mr. Right?
Before you leap without looking, take an honest inventory. See how many
of the following five essential traits he possesses.The best way to know if Mr. Next is interested in (and worthyof)
being a candidate for Mr. Right? He listens to you. You'll know he's
listening when he shows genuine concern, consistently remembers things
you've told him (your birthday, favorite food, best friend's name,
etc.), and offers emotional support in honest...

Christina Hendricks: 9 Dating Secrets That Matter

Tue, 15 Jun 2010 09:27:00 -0500

Dear men,We
love your body. If we're in love with you, we love
your body. Your potbelly, everything. Even if you're insecure about
something, we love your body. You feel like you're not this or that? We
love your body. We embrace everything. Because it's you.Speaking
of your body, you don't understand the power of your
own smell. Any woman who is currently with a man is with him partly
because she loves the way he smells. And if we haven't smelled you for a
day or two and then we...

19 Things You Should Never Say to a Single Person

Tue, 15 Jun 2010 08:27:00 -0500
p>We love your body. If we're in love with you, we love your body. Your potbelly, everything. Even if you're insecure about something, we love your body. You feel like you're not this or that? We love your body. We embrace everything. Because it's you.
Speaking of your body, you don't understand the power of your own smell. Any woman who is currently with a man is with him partly because she loves the way he smells. And if we haven't smelled you for a day or two and then we suddenly are within inches of you, we swoon. We get light-headed. It's intoxicating. It's heady.
We remember forever what you say about the bodies of other women. When you mention in passing that a certain woman is attractive -- could be someone in the office, a woman on the street, a celebrity, any woman in the world, really -- your comment goes into a steel box and it stays there forever. We will file the comment under
As
a writer, I avoid cliches like the plague...HAHA! But
seriously, cliches are old, tired, and they show absolutely no thought. I
mean, do I make you read that some guy's skin was as white as snow? No.
It's a major insult to your intellect. So when I have to hear a cliche
or overused saying in the real world, as a response to my newly single
status or some other dating dilemma, it's
offensive and frustrating."Why
do we have so many sayings and maxims for dating? A single gal is
likely...

Dating 101: Ways You Keep Him Hooked and Happy

Mon, 14 Jun 2010 10:57:00 -0500
er, I avoid cliches like the plague...HAHA! But seriously, cliches are old, tired, and they show absolutely no thought. I mean, do I make you read that some guy's skin was as white as snow? No. It's a major insult to your intellect. So when I have to hear a cliche or overused saying in the real world, as a response to my newly single status or some other dating dilemma, it's offensive and frustrating.
There are loads
of simple things you do that are utterly irresistible to him -- and make
yourself happy too.I once took a girl
out on a first date not realizing it happened to be Valentine's Day. As
we settled into our pink and red doily-covered table and looked over
the heart-shaped menus, I was ready to die. But she was so cool about
the whole thing, and went out of her way to make me feel OK about it,
that I fell for her before the "I'm So in Love With You Ribeye for Two"
arrived....

Things I Wish I'd Known About Dating When I was 21

Mon, 14 Jun 2010 10:24:00 -0500
s of simple things you do that are utterly irresistible to him -- and make yourself happy too.
I once took a girl out on a first date not realizing it happened to be Valentine's Day. As we settled into our pink and red doily-covered table and looked over the heart-shaped menus, I was ready to die. But she was so cool about the whole thing, and went out of her way to make me feel OK about it, that I fell for her before the
1.
If you're confused about whether a guy likes you or not, that's
probably not good. Confusion in romance belongs only in romantic
comedies because it suspends the plot, but suspense in real life sucks.
So try not to analyze the events. The truth will reveal itself without
you having to do anything.2.
Sometimes guys flirt with you or pay attention to you because it makes
them feel good about themselves. (Hey, we do it, too.)3.
Even a guy who will admit that you're better looking than...

The 4-legged feud

Thu, 10 Jun 2010 20:15:00 -0500
ou're confused about whether a guy likes you or not, that's probably not good. Confusion in romance belongs only in romantic comedies because it suspends the plot, but suspense in real life sucks. So try not to analyze the events. The truth will reveal itself without you having to do anything.
2. Sometimes guys flirt with you or pay attention to you because it makes them feel good about themselves. (Hey, we do it, too.)
3. Even a guy who will admit that you're better looking than him should still be able to tell you you're beautiful. If he holds back in order to control the situation, or to keep you, or keep you down, he's got issues.
4. Don't help him ask you out by texting him something nice or polite. I'm glad you're more outgoing and thoughtful than he is, but he doesn't want the help.
5. Guys want to get busy more than anything. They'll say anything to close the deal.
6. It's shocking how much guys will talk about marriage. Until there's a ring on your finger, it will be better for you if you pretend you're deaf.
7. It's better not to lift a finger in the beginning.
8. In the early stages, giving him presents is too much. Generosity looks desperate to guys. You may be a great shopper and gift-wrapper; it may be his birthday and you may be wild about birthdays -- even still, he'll think you're just wild about him. Too wild.
9. Guys just do not think like girls. I wish I'd had a brother. Real boys are nothing like the boys in movies.
10. They might take a decade to mature. Don't hope they'll grow up or be ready in the next six months.
11. Even if your family thinks there's going to be a marriage, don't let them spoil your guy. Yes, he's grateful you gave him your car when he moved out of NYC, but he would rather have had to work for it.
12. Learn to cook. Learn to cook well. I see now that it would have won me a lot of points. A LOT.
13. Just because he might be smarter than you or more talented at certain things doesn't mean he's your servant and won't mind doing all your homework/research/chores.
14. Guys get resentful, too.
15. You're special, unique, and important, but you're not a princess -- no matter what Daddy says (although for the record, my dad calls me

I've said this before and I'll say it again: You have to start being yourself by at least the second date. This is no truer than when pets come into the picture. It's all too easy to "ooh" and "ahh" and pal around with some hottie's Chihuahua to get her to like you when all you really want to do is drop-kick Fido and score a field goal....

Quick Reasons That Expert Photographers Are Required For Your Wedding

Tue, 01 Jun 2010 21:47:00 -0500

I've said this before and I'll say it again: You have to start being yourself by at least the second date. This is no truer than when pets come into the picture. It's all too easy to
By Viktor T RamonehWhen a person has gone to the time, effort and expense to create a spectacular and memorable wedding that will be remembered for a lifetime, the one way that the event will be returned to throughout the coming years will be through the photos and videos that have been taken during the wedding. There are no do-overs when wedding photos are done incorrectly or do not have the quality that is desired. This is one of the reasons you don't leave wedding photography to amatuers use...